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Temper tantrums
Temper
tantrums are a normal part of child development. Almost all
children
between the ages of 1 and 5 have them (so do many adults!).
Young
children are easily frustrated and disappointed. They haven't yet
learned
how to describe their feelings or solve their own problems. When
they
get mad, they have tantrums.
What
should I do when faced with a tantrum?
- Be calm, but
firm.
If your child is doing something dangerous (hitting, kicking, biting),
make
it clear that his/her behavior will not be tolerated. Restrain
your
child by holding him/her from behind if the dangerous behavior
continues.
-
Remove
your child to a safe and private place. Children often have
tantrums
to gain attention. Ignoring behaviors that are not dangerous is
often
the best way to send the message that a tantrum is not an appropriate
way
to express frustration.
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Try
to
distract your child. Young children are easily
distracted.
Try to avoid a tantrum by encouraging acceptable activities.
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Do
not
give in or offer rewards. If kids are rewarded for stopping
their
tantrums, they may learn that a tantrum is a good way to get what they
want.
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Know
what
is best for your child. Some children regain self-control
fastest
when they are left alone. Others need your calm presence
nearby.
Others still need a soothing touch. Experience and learn what
best
helps your child to learn self-control.
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