Temper tantrums

Temper tantrums are a normal part of child development.  Almost all children between the ages of 1 and 5 have them (so do many adults!).

Young children are easily frustrated and disappointed.  They haven't yet learned how to describe their feelings or solve their own problems.  When they get mad, they have tantrums.

What should I do when faced with a tantrum?

• Be calm, but firm.  If your child is doing something dangerous (hitting, kicking, biting), make it clear that his/her behavior will not be tolerated.  Restrain your child by holding him/her from behind if the dangerous behavior continues.
 
• Remove your child to a safe and private place.  Children often have tantrums to gain attention.  Ignoring behaviors that are not dangerous is often the best way to send the message that a tantrum is not an appropriate way to express frustration.
 
• Try to distract your child.  Young children are easily distracted.  Try to avoid a tantrum by encouraging acceptable activities.
 
• Do not give in or offer rewards.  If kids are rewarded for stopping their tantrums, they may learn that a tantrum is a good way to get what they want.
 
• Know what is best for your child.  Some children regain self-control fastest when they are left alone.  Others need your calm presence nearby.  Others still need a soothing touch.  Experience and learn what best helps your child to learn self-control.

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