The SELF Model
We communicate about change using Dr. Sandra Bloom's four concepts: Safety, Emotions, Loss, and Future. They guide the way we work and speak with each other, and the way families heal and make progress in their lives. This language is called the S.E.L.F. language, and each letter represents an important part of how we view trauma and change both in our organization and in our lives.
We know that safety is the foundation of healing and growth. Family Resources is dedicated to creating nonviolent environments that support physical, emotional, social and moral safety.
In the journey towards healing, we focus on how we learn to manage or cope with strong emotions related to our experiences. We know that feelings drive behaviors and if we cannot effectively manage our feelings, we will act them out in ways that are unproductive and self-defeating.
All change involves loss and until loss is acknowledged, a child or family cannot progress toward a brighter future. Loss takes many forms - the physical loss of a person, an emotional loss such as a divorce or loss of hope or trust. For our staff and for our clients, conversation and transparency about loss and its consequences is key to creating healing environments.
We actively develop the belief and hope - for ourselves and for our clients - that things can change and get better because we control our destiny and are empowered to create positive growth and change. We make short and long-term plans, set goals, and incorporate forward-looking language into all that we do and say.